3 Ways To Claim Your Midlife Self Belief for Good

3 Ways To Claim Your Midlife Self Belief for Good

I don’t know about you, but turning 50 really DID change me.

I had been perimenopausal for 10 years, and that had coincided with the birth of my youngest son, so being a mother with young children and in perimenopause created some intensity and joys and challenges.  I also had a teenage son, and my own midlife mirrored the changes he was going through, in an albeit different but relatable way!

I didn’t fit in, I felt I was not being heard, I wanted to be listened to and to express a raging energy, passionate, full, creative, on a whole new level.  I knew I wasn’t alone, but I felt that each one of us needs that invitation so that we give ourselves permission to fly in Midlife, to let our newly found US come out.

It can feel like you have lost yourself, but really you are in the emotional equivalent of a foggy void, and there is ultimately a clearing, and that is the connection to our sense of self.

I crashed, and experienced my 4th burnout, however, it wasn’t until I almost lost my life to pneumonia just before I turned 50 that things completely came out in the open about what that had to do with self-belief.

You see, I have always held deep spaces for Women and did a lot of juggling, and loved it, but midlife came along, and I really had to admit defeat, because the old ways were NOT going to work ever again.  The pace had to change. Getting older created new opportunities as I changed, my world changed, what I believed was right for me changed.  In truth, things got wiser, deeper and more resourceful.  And I’m so bloody grateful for that!

My body changed, my ability to engage with people, my levels of tolerance, my attitude to time, relationships, work and life.  As I took stock of my life on oxygen in hospital, I made myself a promise, if I got out alive, I would ONLY do what I wanted, because I’d spent a lifetime making it about everyone else, mostly.

And so, I want to share three things from my heart, sincerely, which enabled me to claim myself belief so that my life began to work for me and I know you will LOVE these too.  I work with powerful manifestation and intention in my groups and one to one immersions, so let’s set some intentions now to invite in all that you need and create this self-belief for yourself today.

3 Ways To Claim Your Midlife Self Belief for Good

1.        Finding a new WHY

I travelled deep to look at WHY I did things, and the reasons took me to my younger self, the part of me that was influenced by the world around me deeply, a place of seeking approval as a child and teenager, and just walked away from all need to please anyone.  Letting go was AMAZING.  I invite you to make peace with the past in terms of your younger self, be there for her, love her and so free her for making other people the reason why you make decisions. Find a new WHY, the one that supports you, the one from your own heart.

2.        Celebrating you NOW

I spent a long time on this – learning how I could love myself more.  And then it happened, because I had ditched the reason behind why I had done things in the past, I became free to laugh and find joy and love myself right now, I saw myself differently, in the moment, and I created space to celebrate her.  And as you find ways to honour yourself, you let go of the thoughts living freely in your head that don’t belong there, and the lure to have joy increases, as you love yourself inside and out, more am more each day.

3.        Getting EXPRESSIVE

I’ve always been an extrovert, but I’d never been a Midlife Woman before! I did end up giving away half of the clothes that no longer felt like me, but I also embraced the self-expression that made me feel GOOD.  The way I dressed, singing, dancing, and for me drumming and painting became a priority.  Because it made me HAPPY.  What brings you joy?  I invite you to come out of your comfort zone and to do more of it and also to get creative with how you look and feel, because you are a Goddess, you owe it to yourself to take up your spot, you know, they one reserved just for you.

My gift to you: The Self Belief Toolkit, see below for details!

About Angie

Angie is a Modern Medicine Woman, an Earth Based Celebrant/Ceremonialist, Guide and Wellbeing Expert.

She works with women in Midlife and Beyond through a powerful combination of ceremony, mentoring and shamanic practice holding sacred empowering space helping guide them to claim their Confidence, Divinity and Wild Woman Nature, find Voice and Truth and go out into the world on their terms.

This is your time. This is our space to speak HERSTORY and Decolonise.

You can find out how to work with her and claim your Self Belief Toolkit here: https://www.angielitvinoff.com/