Why Self Employed burn out changed my life
Updated: Jun 21, 2019
As a busy mother of two children with my own business, the typical challenges of balancing family life and earning a living were like for many of us, extremely real.
When I didn’t work, I didn’t earn, and alongside that my small children needed me. My husband worked long hours and so I had effectively a working day consisting of term times between the hours of 10 and 2 and long evenings. I had a busy clinic and worked with complex issues with clients, both children and adults.
Then one day I got to the point I just couldn’t get out of bed. My body was so exhausted that it somehow prevented me from moving. I had depression and anxiety, no energy and no time. I had forgotten one very important thing in all of this – me. Then life stopped, for a whole summer. I cleared out my workspace and cancelled my commitments, I didn’t really know what was going to happen next but I knew, with all my knowledge and wisdom that I had reached the end of something. It was also the beginning of perimenopause, and it was manifesting as exhaustion and overwhelm - thankfully - as I really listened.
As with all the greatest moments in my life, a huge change happened. I got enough time to work on inner processes and gain a clear perspective. I made lists, let go of mindset, reset boundaries, asked for help, reworked my business, checked in with my family. I soul coached myself and developed a system so I could change my life. This burnout was the result of over 15 years of working non stop.
Nobody had asked me to do it this way, I just didn't know there was another way, until I reached this point where I had no choice but to consciously review everything. Sometimes we can be so useful we become part of a mechanism in a family. In my situation it was that I was too busy to stop, but equally I come across scenarios constantly with clients where it is just too convenient or controversial for them to begin to assert themselves, put their needs first or create changes. Sound familiar?
My burnout was also the result of being a successful person without putting myself first, we often think we are putting ourselves first but hand on heart, I can say certain that is not always true.
I call it SACRED SELF CARE. So, what happened next?
A new approach to balancing work and family
A greater understanding of boundaries and parameters
A new zest for life
A process of rediscovering myself
Better health and greater levels of happiness
From the heart,
Angie Litvinoff - Medicine Woman
About the writer
I'm a modern day medicine woman, empowerment expert, soul coach and shaman. To find out more about my soul coaching and mentoring programmes do contact me for a free discovery call, or see www.angielitvinoff.com . I’d love to see where you are at and how I can help you best.